Jordan’s Amazing Journey: From a Violent boy with ADHD to Top of his Class Student in a Month and a Half!
‘When he gets annoyed he becomes violent, he curses, throws things and even physically threatens his older sister.’ This is what 11 year old Jordan’s mother told me at our first meeting.
The complexity in dealing with his behavioral and emotional issues was immense. Jordan is the third son of two loving parents, who were exhausted from the difficulty of raising him. He had been diagnosed with ADHD two years earlier, and began treatment with Ritalin, which helped only until the medicine’s effect wore off each day.
The situation at home was tough, with temper tantrums and violence on the one side, and a feeling of terrible frustrations on Jordan’s part on the other, which showed itself in various misbehaviors such as: running away from class, self inflicted injuries and painful statements born from a feeling of low self esteem: ‘I don’t want to live, I’m worthless.’
Each of the parents coped with the difficulty in his or her own way. The mother was entirely committed to being home every afternoon, to being in touch with the educational systems and the various therapists, and thus trying to mediate between Jordan and the rest of the world.
The father, on the other hand, dealt with his pain by escaping to his workplace, coming home late every evening in an attempt to avoid the stress, yelling and difficulties at home.
Very quickly, during the first days of the Positive Whispers process a real change began to occur. Jordan started behaving in a much more calm and respectful way, to express warmth and love to his family, he apologized to his sister for the way he had treated her and started behaving in a much more cooperative and social way than he ever had before.
This change was so dramatic and fast that once the father noticed it he decided to come home earlier, at least once a week, in order to spend more time with his son.
The mother summed up the first month of the process thus in an email she sent me:
“Good morning dear, wonderful, special woman,
They always say that when something ends or is over, it is sad, but here we are, a month has passed since we started the Positive Whispers process, and I cannot say that I’m sad.
Thanks to you and your inspiration we have managed, as a family, to experience a change unlike any I had ever experienced before, in my entire life as a parent. The Positive Whispers for my darling Jordan lead him to a fundamental change and acceptance of himself and his value. This led him to feel an inner peace and an outstanding behavioral change. Following that change, his siblings at home who felt the difference accepted and admired him differently, and our home became filled with life just like it used to be in the past.
My husband changed as well, and suddenly his relationship with Jordan became one of reciprocal giving and mutual enjoyment.
The Positive Whispers process is not over, as far as I am concerned, I will continue to whisper to Jordan and to empower him, and also do everything you recommended I do to empower my self. We have learned that as human beings there no negative sides to us, there are different sides, and we will deal with them successfully… I thank god for the gift I was given. Meeting such a special woman, with so much desire to help, guide and give as you have.
I hope many other special children like Jordan find their way to you, and discover the magic of Positive Whispers/ I hope more children will learn through this that they are loved, cared about, empowered and appreciated for who they are… dear Inesa thank you so much for being who you are…
A.C., a whispering mother.”
However, one month after beginning the EPW process a conversation with the school showed that the teacher and school counselor hadn’t noticed any change at all. In spite of Jordan coming home from school several times with letters praising his behavior, during a meeting with his parents the teacher and counselor made it clear they saw no change.
Both parents felt that this was strange, since the entire family noticed the improvement and even Jordan himself felt completely different, and here the school staff couldn’t see it.
It was obvious the Positive Whispers process needed to continue for Jordan as well as for his mother, until all the desired results were achieved for himself and his family.
Indeed, two and a half months into the process Jordan started showing signs of behaving very differently also at school and with his friends and it was obvious something very significant was changing in this wonderful child, a child who had discovered his strength in calm behavior, cooperation and joy.
During the summer vacation, 5 months later, his mother wrote to me that they had gone on a family vacation for the first time in a very long time, Jordan did not take his Ritalin, and they had a lovely, relaxing and very happy vacation together.
Today, one year after the start of this process, Jordan’s mother writes:
Dear Inesa, ever since I was first exposed to the Positive Whispers process one year ago I decided to take your advice and guidance and give it a try. After all, I was on the verge of despair anyway, and if it didn’t help it certainly wouldn’t hurt… I said to myself.
And now the 12 year old boy is doing amazingly, well loved by everyone, a leader at his school and successful at his studies… he is aware of his weaknesses and strengths and knows how to cope with them. He’s a calm child, sociable and loving…
Not a day goes by without the Positive Whispers being mentioned in our house, and he even demands them when he feels the need. I thank god for sending me an angel like you… thank you in Jordan’s name for the change you have brought about in his life…”
I have no words to express my gratitude and appreciation for this success, for the change in Jordan’s life just moments ahead of stormy teen years, thanks to Positive Whispers.
Parents of children with ADHD – you can too
Parents of children with ADHD spend many hours running back and forth between various therapists. The Positive Whispers process allows parents to take the reins into their own hands and become the best possible therapists for their children. The process is short and 80% of cases show the first glimmers of change already during the first 2 months.
There is no need to continue suffering – the change can be achieved easily and quickly.
