“Can Positive Whispers also help children with speech impediment?”
“Nathan’s regression started at the age of 2 when his twin sisters were born. Ever since then he started acting like a baby, and went back to using his pacifier. His speech has not been understandable ever since. He tries to talk and the words will not come out of his mouth.
And then he avoids talking and just tells me he doesn’t remember what he wanted to say or doesn’t know. His kindergarten teacher says he doesn’t initiate any activity, doesn’t cooperate in kindergarten, can’t find the words… This leads him to withdraw and show no interest in the world outside. Sometimes friends come over to visit him and he doesn’t pay attention to them. Every morning he wakes up angry and pouting and it’s not easy to go about like that”
Nathan’s mother painfully shared with me what has been happening to him in the past 3 years since his sisters were born. Yet alongside with the pain she feels she is also full of hope for him. Her vision is for him to be attentive to his parents and in kindergarten, to take part in group activities rather than get lost, to be able to focus on his tasks and also to be able to speak clearly and find words easily. She wishes for him to be independent and calm, and the most important thing is for him to be able to sleep an entire night, him and his sisters alike.
We started our way with one clear direction regarding Nathan’s and his sisters’ sleeping habits.
Our children learn what they can and cannot do through our own calm determination. Dana, the mother, told me she hasn’t had a full night sleep in the past 5 years, ever since Nathan, the eldest son’s birth.
The instruction was clear. First of all have a warm, loving conversation with her 3 kids – that they are going to sleep in their own beds from this day onwards, throughout the entire night, neither of them gets a bottle or any other affirmation for waking up. And if they do wake up they’ll be put back to sleep gently and lovingly.
Dana didn’t believe it could actually happen, therefore we underwent an empowerment process in the clinic in order for her to believe and be persistent so to give her kids the gift of consistency. This process did in fact work and already in our second session Dana told me enthusiastically she doesn’t know what to do with all of her energy now that she sleeps full nights.
In addition, I developed specific Positive Whispers for Nathan and his young sisters. Based on Dana’s description of the situation I focused on the relationship between Nathan and his sisters, so all 3 of them have a place to express and voice themselves. And the changes were quick to come.
Dana said that in the beginning her husband refused to take part in yet another treatment, but he didn’t stand in her way when he saw how determined she is to take the reins and become the best care-taker for her kids. Dana was persistent and continuously whispered to her kids every night, performed her tasks and home work with devotion and stepped outside her comfort zone every day to enable the very best for them.
Meanwhile in the clinic we worked on Dana’s own self esteem and belief system empowerment, on her ability to believe in herself, to realize that she is the best mother for her kids and to accept that she can succeed in every field she chooses to. The more Dana’s self-worth improved in her opinion the more and more changes appeared in her kids.
At the end of the first month, Nathan was a completely different boy. Dana summed up the month with a huge smile on her face:
“First of all I get to sleep full nights since the first day I became a whispering mom. And I can’t remember the last time I had a full night sleep in the past 5 years. The kid barely spoke when we started and now even the kindergarten teacher says he is cooperative, he speaks, he communicates, gets tasks done and acts independently. He’s advancing in occupational therapy, he doesn’t avoid it, cries and runs away anymore. Instead, he cooperates and does the things he’s supposed to do. He always had a problem speaking fluently and now it comes easily to him.
At first my husband told me that this method is nonsense, and now he checks up on me every night to make sure I whisper to them and to myself. The kid changed.
Every morning he used to wake up angry and pouting and now he wakes up every morning happy, gets dressed on his own and even surprises me, he says: “Don’t look at me”, and comes out of the room all dressed up. He even wants to take a shower by himself since he’s so independent”.
And when Dana, the whispering mother smiles, I know she managed to bring back the smile to everyone in her family.
I’m happy and smiling with her.
If you want to become whispering parents too and learn how to do it, you are welcome to read more about “Positive Whispers”, and how in a short one-month process we help your children experience an emotional empowerment and behavioural improvement, as well as help you the parent experience relaxation, confidence and control over the situation.
